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Why can’t we, as humans, offer ‘Human Alpha Males’ self-help type books that will make them, and society in general, more successful?  Many ‘Alpha Males’ have already made an effort to improve themselves, but many are acting exclusively from instinctive behaviors.  Purely instinctive behaviors rarely work extremely well in modern society.

Here are some resources:

David DeAngelo - On Being a Man, Man Transformation, and Become Mr. Right.

David Deida - The Way of the Superior Man.

Carlos Xuma offers some “Alpha Male’ programs.

RSD Jeffy - Transformations

What type of situations do men look for related to long-term relationships with women?

1. Male who doesn’t understand women and marries the first one he can get.
2. Male who understands women and picks one he feels very strongly toward
3. Male who commits due to wanting to do the right thing or be a father for his children

Anything else is not likely related to evolutionary behavior and his understanding (or lack) of it.

2 is the only highly recommended healthy relationship to go into, although the 3rd one can be.

Men are bred (by evolution) to be able to have children with as many women as possible. And part of all mating behavior is controlled by that regardless of his wanting children or not.

Women have a similar feeling towards men about sex but completely different towards having children. Any man has a chance with any woman if he merely acts attractively. Sure some women will be otherwise committed, but he still has a chance if something were to change. When I say ‘acts attractively’ I do not mean he is putting on an act, rather that he changed the way he acts based on understanding himself and what is attractive to women.

But to catch and keep a good woman is a bit more complex.

Do you understand enough about what women really want?

1. Set goals that are based on the reality of being human.
2. Daily give yourself time for both stress AND recovery.
3. Create a ritual that works for you. Designed to cause successful behavior to become automatic. Something that puts you in situations where you will be moving towards your goals without thinking about it.

Reality is performing at 100% is not possible given our current knowledge as humans. We take actions upon ourselves and others that decrease that even more. But YOU have the ability to perform at a higher rate than 99.99% of ALL humans who have and now exist, and be happy.

Or are you on a treadmill with no plan?

Have you written it down, if you have one?

Have you stared your dark side in the face and talked to it?

What is your ‘dark side’?
Best answer I can think of…
The sum of your evolutionary behaviors that have negative effects usually on others but often, in reality, on ourselves.

Society often teaches us to behave in ways that are opposite to our basic instincts. And yes we do need to find ways to override instincts, but the primary message seems to be: ‘pretend that part isn’t there’. Particularly when society gives you few or no ways of overriding the instincts. Of course that is only ourselves interpreting the world, there are always more choices than are given us.

Do you converse with your dark side? Or do you pretend its not there?

Why do we have this dark hungry primate in us? - Evolutionary survival of the species.

Why is it done?
Cause it works, sometimes.

Remember Y2K, power outages, nuclear weapons being shot, all sorts of scare tactics. What actually happened:

A major electric company in US billed a few customers as if they hadn’t paid in years but no one was actually effected by it.
A furnace in South Korea stopped working due to a program bug.

How many billion dollars were spent on programming and other precautions?

How are scare tactics such as these affecting us as a society? Affecting others opinions of the western world?

Instead of reacting use times like that as a way to make money off the market or other method. But in no way create that atmosphere, it’s not good for humanity, not even our economy. Those methods only create short term gains.

The market is almost down to the level it would naturally have gone to had Y2K never happened.

S&P500 - (Select ‘max’ on graph.)

Scare Tactics in Advertising - cartoon

What can we do?

If your heart is in the right place you can do anything.

For long term goals, set few limits on how far you can go.

When starting out set your mind on smaller goals you can reach.

Slowly,  or quickly,  your successes will be larger and larger.

Why did Christianity evolve?

Is it just a set of rules that evolved to help people make sense of the world, and control the masses?

Is it still serving us?

What is the next best thing? Evolution? Does God exist? If so what is God?