Archive for October, 2009

Big changes can happen in societies overnight and yet persist

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

Baboon society

Why can’t we, as humans, offer ‘Human Alpha Males’ self-help type books that will make them, and society in general, more successful?  Many ‘Alpha Males’ have already made an effort to improve themselves, but many are acting exclusively from instinctive behaviors.  Purely instinctive behaviors rarely work extremely well in modern society.

Here are some resources:

David DeAngelo - On Being a Man, Man Transformation, and Become Mr. Right.

David Deida - The Way of the Superior Man.

Carlos Xuma offers some “Alpha Male’ programs.

RSD Jeffy - Transformations

Male vs Female mating drives

Sunday, October 4th, 2009

What type of situations do men look for related to long-term relationships with women?

1. Male who doesn’t understand women and marries the first one he can get.
2. Male who understands women and picks one he feels very strongly toward
3. Male who commits due to wanting to do the right thing or be a father for his children

Anything else is not likely related to evolutionary behavior and his understanding (or lack) of it.

2 is the only highly recommended healthy relationship to go into, although the 3rd one can be.

Men are bred (by evolution) to be able to have children with as many women as possible. And part of all mating behavior is controlled by that regardless of his wanting children or not.

Women have a similar feeling towards men about sex but completely different towards having children. Any man has a chance with any woman if he merely acts attractively. Sure some women will be otherwise committed, but he still has a chance if something were to change. When I say ‘acts attractively’ I do not mean he is putting on an act, rather that he changed the way he acts based on understanding himself and what is attractive to women.

But to catch and keep a good woman is a bit more complex.

Do you understand enough about what women really want?